Hello beautiful people! If you’re in the UK, are you cold enough!? I certainly am! Anyways, today I’m sharing 8 mindset shifts that improved my life. I saw something similar on a YouTube video and thought about the mindset shifts that really helped me. Hopefully it inspires you or, reminds you of the mindset shifts that has improved your life too. Don’t forget to share in the comments.
8 Mindset Shifts that Improved my Life
I Stopped Waiting
I used to wait on other people to do things because I wanted to share the experience. However, I realised that if I really wanted to do something or go somewhere, I needed to just do it. The reality is, not everyone will enjoy or want to do what you want to do and I had to be okay with going on my own. My very first solo trip was to Barcelona for my birthday. Was I scared? Absolutely! However, I realised that if I waited, I’d never have gone to Zakynthos or Pisa or Sicily or anywhere else I’ve been to for that matter.
My Desire is Greater than the Fear
The second mindshift that improved my life was, my desire for whatever it is needed to be greater than my fear. It sounds scary because it is but what I did was to focus more on my desire than my fear. It didn’t make the fear go away immediately nor o I demonise the fear. I listened to the what and why’s and made a plan and then did it anyway.
Rest is Mandatory not Optional
Life tells us that we need to hustle and sleeping 3 hours a night is like a badge of honour. It really isn’t. Rest and recovery is a priority for my mental health, physical wellbeing and it’s a safety for the public at large….I kid, or am I? 🙂 Anyways, research has shown that rest manages stress, helps your body heal, reduces inflammation and so much more. After years of pushing hard to climb an imaginary ladder and dealing with insomnia due to grief, I decided that getting regular rest needs to be a top priority. I did this by going to therapy, creating a nighttime routine and a few other things. Let me know if you’d like a dedicated post on this in the comments below.
Discipline over Motivation
There’s been a whole movement around being motivated and leveraging it to get to wherever you want to go or do. It’s false! Motivation is like cotton candy. Great when you’re at a fun fair and riding bumper cars. Motivation is not for the days when you’re tired, not seeing results immediately and you just want to give up. Discipline is. Discipline is that girl who isn’t flashy, talks about pattern recognition, but she is trusted because you know she shows up every single time. During covid when I couldn’t travel and was furloughed, I started working out 4-5 times a week. Now, 5 years later, I am still working out when it’s cold, can’t jog because it’s raining or I just don’t feel like it. That discipline is ingrained in me and I use it in other areas of my life.
Outgrowing People is Okay
I used to be so heart broken when friendships ended or changed because of life circumstances. Now that I am more seasoned, I realise that this is okay. We are meant to grow and change because that’s life and not everyone will walk the same road or even walk parallel to you. When you find your friendships drifting away because you want something different for yourself, find the gratitude. Gratitude for the friendship and the good times. Then you mourn for that friendship, make peace with the change and look forward with excitement and joy.
Wear my Clothes!
I have a closet full of clothes and could probably rinse and restyle a new look everyday for 3 months straight. So, I started focusing on what I do have in my closet and realised I have a lot! This is great because it means I can shop my closet before buying. Does this mindset mean I no longer shop? No but it makes me pause, check my closet and delay purchases until I check that I can style it 5 times with what I already have. This has allowed me to funnel that money into a flight or a massage.
My Journey is my Own
Comparison is the thief of joy. A quote I am sure you’ve heard before and a mindset we all need to adopt. Social media, whilst not good or bad, can lead you to question your life and the journey that you’re on. I look at other people’s lives for inspiration and no longer compare their highlight reel to my entire life. The journey of my life is that, my life. I’m less anxious when I shifted to that mindest.
Keep Promises to Myself
The final mindset is about keeping promises to myself. If I keep my promises to others, why not keep it to myself? I’m with me for the rest of my life and if I disappoint myself then I will be pleasing others and being miserable. Why treat me bad but other people better than myself? Do you see how that mindset can cripple you? I started off with little things like, I will buy myself some salsa dance shoes if I go to class consistently for 2 months. Or, I promise to not check messages first thing in the morning and instead pour into myself through prayer, journalling and affirmations. Doing these little things helped me to trust myself because I’ve got me.
These are my 8 mindset shifts that improved my life. Do you do any of these? Share in the comments below your mindset shifts.
As always thank you for reading and until next time, be well!x
